Moving House with your Dog?

Moving house with your dog can be stressful, but not if you are prepared and remember YOUR DOG LIVES IN A WORLD IT DOES NOT UNDERSTAND.

Here are some simple but effective tips on how to lessen the stress on you and your dog if you are moving house.

Before the move
Dogs pick up on what you are feeling, so try and stay relaxed so they can see there is nothing to worry about.  From your dogs perspective, they will see a lot of changes in this time and remember dogs don’t like change!  This makes them ask questions.

They will see the members of their pack act differently as they start to get busy with the move.  They will also see things being moved around the house, familiar things being taken away and boxed up….   Strangers visiting the house – this is especially true if you have agents visiting or have an open home etc…

The dog’s whole world is being turned upside down.  DOGS LIVE IN A WORLD THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND.  Therefore all this activity is going to understandably worry them.

Security is important to them, and if you are taking away everything familiar that makes them feel secure, they need to be able to look to you and recognise that you are the pack leader and you will keep them safe.  This way they can relax.
At this time if you have adopted Amichien® Bonding, keep working on the 4 areas of the method, as this will establish the leadership they need.  And remember you don’t have to walk your dog, so only do so if you are Happy and In Control.

During the Move
As said before dogs will pick up on your state of mind so if you are stressed your dog will be feeling it too.  The ideal situation is to have someone else look after them on moving day so they are completely out of the way.  However, if you have no other choice than to have your dog with you on moving day then it shouldn’t be a problem if you manage it well.

  • Keep their leads, bowls, bedding and their familiar things – maybe a favourite toy out of the packing – this can be the last thing to pack in a box which you can easily locate at your new home.  Do not going buying them a new bed for their new home.
  • Keep your dog out of the way, as they may get injured or escape.  Place them in a room where they can’t get in anyone’s way.  Please do not leave them in the car as cars get extremely hot.
  • Travelling with your Dog – always remain calm and don’t make a fuss – for more details on travelling with your dog please read my blog on dogs barking in cars.

In the New Home
Help your dog settle by making sure there are some familiar smells in the house.  Unpack their box first with their bedding etc….  This is why you don’t want to go buying a new bed, as they need to have familiar things around them.  This will help them settle, however, they are going to notice that the new place smells strange and this may just provoke some unwanted behaviour.  This may include sent marking the house, so at first keep them somewhere that it is easy to clean up without making a fuss.  Do not scold your dog, instead reward/praise him when he does go in the right place and he will soon learn.

The first night your dog can be unsettled which is understandable.  So it is important to carry on as normal as if nothing has changed even if your dog is stressed/worried.  Do not make a big deal out of the situation by cuddling or fussing your dog as you may make things worse.  You may have to deal with whinning or barking on your first night, which you must ignore and not let yourself get anxious as your dog will pick up on this, and it will spiral out of control.

If you have been practising the method you may not have to deal with this.  They may bark and you can go to them once and thank them for alerting you to danger and then leave them alone.

After the move, there may be things that will make them ask questions, for example they may bark at almost everything at first, but remember this is a new and strange place, so they are just alerting you to what they feel may be a danger.  Again just thank them as in the method and stay calm.

Happy moving!  And if you have adopted the method Amichien® Bonding it will not be long before your dog is relaxed and stress free again.  Moving house with your dog doesn’t have to be a stressful event – just plan ahead.  If you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact me.

If you would like me to talk about a particular subject in one of my next newsletters, please feel free to send me an email.

Best wishes

Glenda

Become the leader of your pack and adopt Amichien Bonding.

How to stop your dog urinating inside your home.

Is your dog urinating inside your home?  This may not just be a matter of toilet training.

Yes your dog needs to be taught where they are allowed to do their business, as they do not know the difference between the lawn outside or your best carpet!  To train them to do this is very straight forward.

If your dog urinates in the house or where they are not meant to, do not react.  This may not be easy, but you are making things worse by reacting – you are making something out of nothing.  And they will learn that they can get a reaction from this action – it doesn’t matter to them what type of reaction/attention they get.  So they will repeat the behaviour.

So do not react, just clean it up with out any communication to your dog, and also keep calm when cleaning it up.  When they do urinate in the correct place, praise or reward them.  Most dogs will want to go to the toilet not long after they have eaten, so after they have eaten, take them outside (or feed them outside), and wait until they go.  When they do praise them “good girl/boy”.  To start with you can also give them a reward/treat.  This is one of the times you can go up to your dog (I will do another newsletter on your dogs space to explain this).  So as soon as they have finished their business, go up to them and give them a treat and praise.   Your dog wants to please you, so this way they are getting the right message in a positive way.

Now some of you may have done this and still your dog urinates in the house.  This is due to other reasons.  It could be medical, but if this is not the case, then your dog has an issue with its role in the pack (the pack is your household).  Inadvertently you have given your dog the role of leader in the pack.  So your dog is making all the decisions – your dog is urinating in the house to mark their territory.  DOGS ARE IN A WORLD THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND, so when you leave, they do not know you are coming back, so will scent the house, so you know where to find them.  This can be one of the results of separation anxiety.  As well as scent marking, it could be because it gets your attention.  If your dog is leader of the pack, he can do exactly as he pleases, and as you are the subordinate he has no reason to listen to you.  If he wants to check his position in the pack, and knows urinating gets your attention, he will do this, it gets your attention on his terms, so he has reaffirmed his position as leader in the pack.

Your dog does not want the role of leader of the pack as it is a job they are not able to do in our world.  So to stop this behaviour, take the decision making away from your dog with Amichien® Bonding and your dog will not need to urinate or defecate in the house.

If you are leader and you are making the decisions, your dog does not need to scent the house, as you are the leader and can come and go as you please.  Your dog will also not need to do it to get your attention, because if you are leader, you will not react to this behaviour, so they won’t succeed in getting your attention this way.  By using the method, you communicate to them every day in your daily routine to reassure them you make the decisions.  Then your dog can relax as you have taken the responsibility away from him.

Amichien® Bonding is a kind, simple and effective way of communicating with your dog in a language it understands.

If you would like to know more about the method, you can buy the book or DVD which explains the method, or for more information on home one to one consults please contact me.

Best wishes

Glenda

 

Should I Castrate my Dog?

This is a question I am asked quite regularly, and it is something that is often recommended to people to solve their dogs behavioural issues.covering ears dog

My recommendation is to first ask yourself why you want to castrate your dog.

Of course if your answer is for health problems or to avoid unwanted puppies it is definitely acceptable to castrate your dog.

However, for the following reasons it is not necessary:

To stop my dog cocking his leg

Myself and other colleagues have met male dogs that squat and female dogs that cock their leg.  Some clients who have had their dogs castrated, say their dog still cocks his leg.  So you can be reassured that castration is not going to stop this.  If you want your dog to be more selective about where he cocks his leg, first you need to be the decision maker using Amichien® Bonding, and secondly as in my blog about urinating in the house, reward your dog for cocking his leg in the right area and ignore him when he does it where you don’t want it.

To stop my dog getting amorous with my visitors

Yes very embarrassing I know….  Castration will not stop this either – animals as well as humans still have the ability to function sexually, even if reproduction is out of the question.  The solution to this is if your dog starts “leg humping”, remove your dog from the room into a place of isolation, to give him time out for this action.  (Always remain calm when doing this).  If when you let him out he does it again, repeat the time out.  Repeat this for as long as it takes for him to stop “leg humping”.  Some dogs only take a couple of times of this and give up, others you may require more patience with. The last thing your dog wants to be is repeatedly losing the pack, so he will stop eventually.  This should also be done in conjunction with implementing Amichien® Bonding.

To stop my dog being so aggressive

In the majority of cases, castration does not work and in fact can make your dog get worse.  To stop aggression you need to take the job of leader, which you have inadvertently given to your dog, away from him. By using Amichien® Bonding, you communicate to your dog in a way he understands and you make him elect you as leader.  Therefore he stops having to make the decisions in a world that he does not understand.  Dogs are not aggressive by nature and if you have an aggressive dog and want to change this, it can be done – please contact me at info@alphainstinct.com.au for further information.

To stop prostate cancer

I am not a vet and do not have the expertise to advise on this, so would recommend you get a number of opinions and google new research before you remove something that occurs naturally in your dog. Although I don’t have the answer I would be asking the following questions: Do we remove other naturally occurring organs because there may be a chance they get cancer?  Is there a reason for a dog getting prostate cancer other than because the organ is there?  What side effects are there removing the prostate?  I also look at our own human statistics and as we eat more processed foods we seem to be getting sicker and sicker as a nation.  So maybe this is the same for our dogs?  Have you looked at the ingredients list in things you feed your dog – do you understand them?   So many questions!

 

In summary – for medical reasons and unwanted puppies go for it – just make sure you get a second opinion and do your research.

If it is for any behavioural reason – it is not necessary.  It’s whats in your dog’s head that has to be changed.  And this can be done using Jan Fennell International Dog Listener’s method Amichien® Bonding.

If you would like any more information on the method or one to one consults in your home, please contact me.

For more on this subject please see Jan Fennell’s article There is Always a Simple Solution.

Best wishes

Glenda

Stop your dog barking in the car…..

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Problem with your Dog Barking in the car?
Here’s why…..  Dogs perceive cars as mobile dens which are vulnerable from all sides.  Imagine the speed things are rushing past and if your dog perceives itself as leader it can get very distressed as your dog is unable to get to you to protect you from these threats.  Therefore, until you are leader, any car journey should be avoided, if possible.

Once your dog has accepted you as leader, you give the normal response to any ‘perceived danger’ which is to thank your dog. If, however, your dog continues to react in a negative way and you are unable to take the usual next steps by ‘looking’ and ‘isolating’, it is advised that you enlist the help of a friend or family member.
All dogs should be contained safely while travelling in your car – if you have them in a cage or contained in the back area of your car, you can attach a lead to their collar and thread this through the bars of the cage or over the back of the seat. You can then sit on the back seat and when your dog begins to whine or bark simply ease the lead towards you, effectively drawing your dog towards the bars of the cage. This will stop your dog from barking and then the lead can be relaxed again. Do not make any verbal or eye contact with your dog as you do this.  This consequence of action will soon teach your dog that undesirable behaviour will result in this.  If your dog reacts again this action must be repeated. This can also be done if your dog wears a harness attached to a seat belt, the only difference is that you will draw your dog towards you until your dog is quiet.  So depending on how you secure your dog in the car you may have to adapt this slightly.  The idea is that you remain calm as you are the leader and you make the decisions.

Good luck and remember though you can only stop your dog barking in the car with the above method if you have adopted Amichien® Bonding.

Hope this helps!  If you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact me.

Best wishes

Glenda

Become the leader of your pack and adopt Amichien Bonding.

Leadership – why is it so important?

Imagine your are set down in the middle of the Australian outback, with a group of strangers.  You have been given a weeks supply of food, water and some equipment to assist you in your journey to safety. So you only have week in which to figure a way out, know how to make use of everything provided to its fullest and to take the journey.  You are reliant on the skills of the group to get to safety.  Each person in the group has a different set of skills which if the group works well together will get them to safety. However, if the group cannot work together and make good use of the skills, some may survive but others will perish in the outback.

Some people in the group start to panic, and start rummaging through the supplies taking what they think they will need; another couple start making commands for everyone to follow their lead; and another person wants to set up camp in a nearby area.  Everyone is starting to get on edge and there is a lot of disagreeing with what should be done first – panic is setting in.  One of the members of the group – Jo,  asks everyone for calm and suggests that there is a way out of here if we sit down and establish what we can all contribute to the group; and then make a plan on what we need to do to get out as a team.  A few people sit down together without a fuss, and some sit down muttering and are not really willing to following the instructions of Jo, as they think he is trying to take over.  When everyone has sat down Jo calmly says “why don’t we take turns and introduce ourselves one at a time with our name and how we think we are able to contribute to the group?”  One person pipes up and says “oh so at least we get to know everyone before we die out here!”.  Jo ignores the comment and remaining calm suggests he goes first.  He does this and through the exercise they find out that they all have very different skills, each skill is very valuable to the task they have to accomplish.  Now that everyone has seen that all the contributions made by each member creates a great team, they feel confident about their survival.  By now the group has calmed down and they each know how they will contribute and what needs to be done to work together on a plan for their survival and journey to safety.

The group has shown that they respond to Jo’s calm manner and direction and not to other members, who take the more aggressive approach or to those who are quickly panicked.  Now that Jo has laid the foundations for a team able to work together to survive, and everyone now knowing their role in the group, he has shown he is capable of leading the group to safety.  So a vote is taken and Jo is chosen to lead the group.  This does not mean he will not be tested along the way.  There will always be those team members (yes the ones that didn’t vote for him) who will question him.  He will have to constantly convince the group through calm and consistent behaviour that he is still the leader so they listen to him and follow his lead of their own free will.

Looking at this through our dogs eyes – leadership in the dog pack is vital for survival.  What is the most important thing to a dog?  Survival of the pack.  Each dog has their role in the pack and as long as they have a leader to make the decisions, they will be able to function as a great team.  To a dog you are part of this pack – even though you are not a dog, they still see the whole family as the pack.  So who should be leader of your pack?  Yes YOU!

Your dog lives in a world it does not understand, and is faced with a thousand threats every day – and if your dog is leader, this is where things go horribly wrong.  Your dog is doomed to make mistakes if he/she is given the role of leader in your household, where everything man made is alien to him/her and could be a threat.  The pack comes and goes as they please and never listens – no wonder they can get things wrong – all they are trying to do is their job, and no one is listening!  And they are failing through no fault of their own – but they will never give up as their pack survival is their main priority and if you don’t give them a reason to follow your lead, they will always feel they have to take on the role of leadership in the pack.  To be a good leader you need to communicate to your dog in a language he/she understands and you also need to communicate this language in a calm, consistent and convincing manner.

Just like the group in the outback, without a leader, a pack will most likely not survive in the wild – yes a few individuals may but as a pack you are thinking of every member of that pack and the packs survival as a whole.  Our dogs will give everything to ensure the survival of their pack, even if it means misery or pain for them.  That is how incredibly special they are!  So do you want your dog to live like this?  Constantly stressed trying to do a job they are not capable of? Or do you want a dog free from decision making – one that can be happy and relaxed and enjoy being part of your pack – and to follow your lead of their own free will?OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

With Jan Fennell’s method “Amichien® Bonding“, you can learn how to communicate with your dog in a language they understand.  The method is simple, kind and effective and explained in Jan’s book or DVD, which you can purchase here and implement the method yourself for only $20.  Or if you would like help to implement this method please contact me (qualified Dog Listener and member of Jan’s Quality Assurance Program) to find out more about how I can help your individual situation by offering a consult in your own home.

Yes there are all different types of leaders – to read more about what kind of leader you want to be click here.

 

 

The Loss of your Beloved Friend

The time will come when you have to say goodbye to your dog, whether it be due to illness or accident.  You also may have to make the hard decision to use Euthanasia.  This is a difficult time no matter what the cause of your dog’s death.

If you choose Euthanasia then you may have had to ask yourself the big question – what is the quality of my dogs life or what is it going to be?  Most owners would prefer to know their dog has had a happy life and would not want it to be ruined by an unknown length of time of unhappiness and suffering in the end.

‘The one thing you cannot introduce into the decision-making process is selfishness.  No owner relishes the prospect of losing their dog – the loss is going to be heavy, and it is going to mean a lot of heartache – but that cannot be a consideration.  There are only two options : either the dog is going to be in pain or you are.  It should never be the dog.’

‘The loss of a beloved dog is a terrible blow.  Many people feel more grief-stricken about losing their canine companions than losing a human friend or relative, yet many people also feel guilty about admitting how upset they are.  They shouldn’t.  Loss and grief are complicated emotional issues and can be hard for other people to understand.  That is not your concern.  To deny your sense of loss is to deny the love you had for your dog and that is not right.’

The right thing to do when your canine friend passes away is to honour its memory, look back on the good times you shared, and be honest about how much you miss their company.

(Reference : Jan Fennell – The Seven Ages of Your Dog – 2005)

 

 

 

 

Who do you trust?

With all the different techniques of dog training and behavioural solving methods, which one is right for you, and who can you trust is giving you the right information?

I know when I was having problems with my dog, I tried some traditional training methods first and they just didn’t work, I walked my dog twice a day to try and wear her out, but she got fitter and more determined and the problems were still there except I was exhausted!!!

You don’t know who you can trust sometimes, that’s why you have to go with how the method sits with you.  If it doesn’t feel right – don’t do it!  Here’s an example:

When I took my dog to training school, to get my dog to walk next to me I was told to keep jerking and pulling at her chain to physically make her walk by my side.  I was really uncomfortable doing this as I was making my dog do something through force, and if someone was doing that to me I would not respect or like them very much.  It was just plain cruel.  Today I still see people walking down the road jerking their dogs head towards them – who’s enjoying the walk?  Certainly not your dog and I am sure your not either…  Why would you do this with your best friend?

Now I am not judging anyone here who has done this or does this, as often they have been told by experts in their field to do this and it is difficult to question if you don’t know a better way.

But I am here to tell you there is a better way, and a kinder way of getting you dog to do what you want it to at its own free will.  You have to be the decision maker on the walk, so the dog is not leading the pack and you are.  And it all starts in your home first using the Amichien Bonding method.

So how can you trust me?  You don’t have to – just read the book or watch the DVD for only $20, and Jan’s method speaks for itself.  You can implement this method yourself, you don’t have to have a consult.  However, if you would like help implementing the method in your own home, I am here to help.

 

 

Do you want to stop your dog jumping up on you?

Maybe you like your dog jumping up at you when you arrive home, or maybe you would rather be able to get in the door first and get changed into something more appropriate before the onslaught of paws!

The reason you may like this is if you think it is because your dog is pleased to see you.  Yes they are pleased to see you, but for a different reason you may think.  When you arrive home, from the dogs perspective, you have arrived home from the hunt as this would be the only reason you would leave the comfort of your own den.  Firstly they are relieved you have survived the outside world and secondly they need to see who is in charge.  After a hunt their could be casualties so they need to check that you are still fit to lead the pack.

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If your dog is jumping up at you when you arrive home, he/she is trying to establish leadership, and trying to get your attention to see if they are in charge or you are.  Their natural instinct is that as soon as you give them attention – this could be as simple as making eye contact, speaking to them or stroking them – you have shown that you are below them in the pack and they are responsible for the pack.  This is not good for the dog as they are in a world they do not understand and they have been given the job as leader.

So how do you show them you are the leader?  First you need to ignore this behaviour.  When you get home carry on with your normal everyday activities without paying any attention to your dog at all.  If your dog starts jumping up, just turn your back on him/her and ignore them.  Eventually your dog should leave you alone and respect your space.  Once they have done this you can call them to you and give them as much love as you want as this attention is now on your terms.

There may however, be dog owners out their shaking their head and thinking “this won’t work with my dog“.  Sometimes there are dogs that are hard to ignore as their behaviour can get destructive or they get so excited and they don’t calm down.  This behaviour can still be resolved, however, you may need some help implementing the method and ongoing support whilst you work through the issues.  That’s where I can help you. If you would like to discuss a consult further please do not hesitate to contact me.  My consult comes with free back up support for as long as you need.

Establishing leadership is not only about the greeting  – read the book or DVD – The Dog Listener by Jan Fennell and learn about the method Amichien® Bonding for only $20.

 

What kind of leader do you want to be?

Many methods to correct undesirable behaviour in your dog, require you to be the leader of your pack.  Yes this is correct but their are many types of leaders….

For example – in our human world, I can think of a couple of leaders that lead by fear, so their people are too scared to step out of line and therefore do exactly what they are told or they will suffer the consequences.  Would you want this type of leader?  Would you follow them if you had a choice? Imagine (or maybe you don’t have to), you had a boss who continually shouted at you or inflicted pain in some form or another.  You may do what your boss wants , but you have no respect for him/her and if there was ever chance for a change, I bet you would jump at it.

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So do you want to be a leader that shouts at your dog, uses gadgets to inflict pain or discomfort, OR one that treats their dog like “Man’s Best Friend”.  Yes your dog is meant to be your best friend, so wouldn’t you rather treat them like that and want them to follow you of their own free will?  So how do you do this?  

You first have to understand why your dog behaves the way they do, which is because they truly believe they are the leader and that they have to make all the decisions in a world that they do not understand.

For only $20, the Book and DVD explain this in more depth and also the method Amichien Bonding which you implement to elevate your status to leader.  

You may say “but I am not a born leader!”  With this method you don’t need to be a born leader – we will teach you how to become leader of your pack using the method Amichien Bonding.

Interested in changing your relationship with your best friend?  For just $20 you can order the Book or DVD which explains the method and if you then would like to book a consult you can – at least you have an idea of what us Dog Listeners are all about!

 

 

 

Is your Dog Scared of Thunder or any other loud noises?

Do you dread fireworks night?  Is your dog scared of thunder? Does your dog cower and shiver in fear, or just not settle?

By understanding why your dog is scared of thunder or any other loud noise, you can work on solving the issue.  If you are not the leader of your pack, your dog is the decision maker, he/she has to decide whether the noise is something to be worried about.  As your dog is in a world it does not understand – everything is a threat to them and the one they are looking after – you!

If there is thunder and lighting how do you react?  Do you try and reassure your dog – do you get a bit upset at seeing your dog in this way?  This reassurance can often be seen by the dog as you getting stressed and scared too, which makes them even more distressed as they feel now that whatever the loud noise is, it is upsetting you, so your dog must now sort the problem out, some may keep barking to try and scare whatever it is away, others may just become a stressed mess, as they really don’t know what to do!  

So he best thing to do is for you to relax and completely ignore your dog and carry on as if you are fine with everything that is going on and there is nothing to worry about.  If your dog runs and hides – don’t join them!  

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Just leave them there – and eventually they may come out as they see you are okay with the noise.  They will watch you for your reaction.  If you have adopted the Amichien® Bonding method and you are leader, your dog will see that you are not worried about the loud noises and as you are the decision maker, so they don’t need to worry about them either.

This is not a quick fix, as you need to change your dogs mind about who is in charge.  Your dog is not going to give up leadership that easily, so it is a case of working on all 4 areas as the method explains.  Once you are leader, your dog looks to you for the decisions and can relax knowing that they have no decisions to make.

If you would like to know how to become the leader of your pack using a kind, simple and effective method, please read Jan Fennell’s book or watch the DVD – International Dog Listener, which explains the role of leadership and four simple elements in the Amichien Bonding method to correct undesirable behaviour.

If you have extreme reactions that you are not able to address in this way, I would recommend as well as reading the book or watching the DVD, you call me for a one on one consult where I can help you implement the method in your home, to meet your requirements.

This way you can see what I do and you also get FREE back support after I leave.

 

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